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  Are we all actually "bad / evil / immoral" after leaving the faith?

  by stuckinarut2 in

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  so recently there have been several posts with references to talks and articles that imply the following:.

  most of those who learn ttatt or fade from the "truth", are actually practicers of bad things, eg immorality, hence that is why 'we' now find fault with the org?.

  i find this so offensive that they imply such.

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  I grew a goatee. - one or 2 I knew while in did this but we considered “spiritually weak”. I got a tattoo and reserved to get another one in June- some I knew while “in” had tattoos but were considered “spiritually weak” and lost their “privileges”. I smoke a cigar once or twice a month during the summer. I have heard stories of elders doing the same privately with other elders. So if any of this makes me a “sinner” than so be it. I haven’t changed much since leaving. I cuss the same amount too, just don’t feel guilty about it anymore. Oh… I smoked pot a few times since leaving. Don’t care for it. Just wanted to try it.

  I have been out of the cult for a little more than 2 years. Sober from alcohol for 3 and a half years. I sobered up in two ways, one from alcohol and the other from religion. Not sure which is better.
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  Jehovah's Witnesses table witnessing WTF

  by Watchtower-Free in

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  apostate & ex-jehovalarious meme collection.

  https://www.facebook.com/groups/jwmeme/.

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  LOL.
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  My fading files volume III

  by Jon Preston in

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  well its been a while since my doubts were first realized.

  ive been through hell mentally, but no where near what some on this site and those lurking have been through.

  i got lucky, if you believe in that sort of thing.

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  dazed but not confused

  Great to hear. It was such a relief when my wife left a year later with our 2 little ones. It’s funny, but we do seem to communicate better since leaving.
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  Apostate crashes Memorial (update)

  by raymond frantz in

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  the recent video of tony prime where he crashed the memorial made me think how the memorial has changed in recent years ,the layout of the talk ,the lack of jesus and his sufferings.

  how do you think the memorial has changed in recent years ?.

  video of apostate crashing the memorial.

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  That did absolutely nothing to make anyone think. He looked like a crazy mad man. That did not help the cause.

  I get it, but I didnt like how he handled himself.
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  Hey....where's my invitiation ???

  by exwhyzee in

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  i was in my company truck again today, pulled over to the side of the road in a neighborhood, doing some measuring and looking for some survey markers.. a group of jw's were working their way down the street toward me.

  the 2 middle aged ladies were smartly dressed, one had brightly colored highly styled auburn hair and was wearing large noticeable jewlry.

  the brother was late 50's hispanic also smartly dressed in a black top coat and seemed like he might be elder material.

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  dazed but not confused

  I would never use my authority to give them or anyone else a bad time but I'm just curious.

  Your a better person than me.

  Funny story. Thanks for sharing.
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  What is your favorite gospel music?

  by Zoos in

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  my taste in music is pretty eclectic.

  i was listening to some andrea bocelli this afternoon and found this on youtube.. .

  oh my god!!!.

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  My favorite gospel song.

  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oWqMaTYRcCA
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  Did You Go To The Memorial?

  by minimus in

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  i didn't and i don't care about it..

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  Nope. I was invited but I declined. Instead I think I will see if I can watch the lunar eclipse.
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  No Memorial invitation for us :)

  by truthseekeriam in

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  this morning as my husband and i were backing out of our garage to head out to the farmers market a jw was walking up our walkway with his invitation.

  he didn't see us and we didn't rocongnize him but a brother and sister we knew well actually looked our way.

  we decided not to bother and went our way to enjoy a lovely morning picking out fresh fruit and vegetables knowing when we got home the invitation would be stuffed in our door.

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  Well, I just got mine. I came downstairs from a shower and had a missed call and a voicemail from 20 minutes earlier. It was an elder I really liked. He invited me to tomorrow’s memorial services. Mrs. Dazed said to just ignore it. I told her, “If I continue to ignore them, they will continue to bug me.”

  So I decided to send a text. “I respectfully decline this invitation and any future invitations. Please do not contact me again. Thank you.”

  Short and sweet. Hope they get it this time…

  lol... just listened to it again... it was directed to just me. Not to the whole family. He didn't ask Mrs. Dazed?
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  Are JW'S "hated" in all the world? Or...are they considered IRRELEVANT?

  by Terry in

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  wathctower 90/1/1 p. 12 par.

  8 not ashamed of the good news .

  while it is true that jehovahs witnesses are hated and opposed in all the nations of the earth, this is in fulfillment of what was foretold to be an identifying mark of genuine worshipers of the one living and true god.

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  Hated… no. Irrelevant… you betcha. +Butt of many jokes.

  Duvan- woah what? they count inactive and disfellowshipped people? are they trying to fudge the numbers so people will think they're more important than they actually are

  Duvan- An elder told me the same thing over the phone. It was several months after leaving. I told him I no longer believe. I don’t want to be considered a JW. I then said, “what do you want from me? Do you want me to write a letter or something?” He said “that is up to you. You will still be considered a Jehovah’s Witness on the books.” He actually said “on the books”. He told me it would be up to me. I told him I would think about it. I later decided I wouldn’t play by their rules.

  So yes, I am not surprised if Mrs. Dazed, myself and the 2 little ones are still some how counted among their ranks… “on the books”. Gotta love the cult mentality.
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  How long did you know TTATT while attending the meetings?

  by Iamallcool in

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  i did not know anything about ttatt while attending the meetings.. .

  ttatt=the truth about the truth..

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  dazed but not confused

  I started having doubts after being publicly reproved in 2011 for drunkenness. Then did research to reaffirm my faith in Jehovah. I now see that I was in the “apologist” faze for a couple months. Then after accepting TTATT, I left about 3-4 weeks later... cold turkey.

  My wife followed about 13-14 months later. She told me after a year she never really believed that it was the “true” religion. She wanted to make sure it was not a faze I was going through before telling me and committing to leaving. It was a little tougher on her because she had a mom that was in the same hall.

  Now her mom is out of state and everything is much easier for her. The elders call or come over once or twice a year to bug me. I ignore them. It’s a little harder for her. She works in a coffee shop where they frequent. She sees them and remains busy so as not to get cornered.

  So far its working out. We don’t want to be DF’d or DA’d because we want to communicate with our immediate families. It would be less damaging if I was DF’d. Mrs. Dazed would take it a little harder if she were Df’d. We both agree not to give them any power over us by DA'ing.

  Oldgoat- I enjoyed reading your experience. Thanks for sharing it.